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My parents think I'm a loner

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Silent Reaper

Senior Member

06-09-2012

Hey everyone I'm having some trouble lately with my parents.
In my current situation I am currently finishing cegep (similiar to college) and going into university. I have a simple part time job to make a bit of extra money on the side and everything seems OK.
However my parents are not happy, alot of times during my free time I usually hang out on the computer, on skype playing LoL with others, imagur, etc. I go outside but I generally don't really hang out with people (mostly just for errands). I have friends, but more so acquaintances rather than friends. I am very outgoing person (however a tad random) and am able to become friends with most people easily.
When most people go to parties and movies with their friends on friday and saturday nights,I am generally just at home on the computer or reading a book. While I do not say I dislike people, I generally avoid largish social gatherings simply because they bore me and usually I feel awkward rather than entertained and happy.
For friends I have never had any close friends, the closest friend I had was someone who we used to hang out together in houses and maybe like once or twice go to a bar together but apart from that, nothing else.

So, what exactly am I suppose to do about my situation? As it is right now, I'm fine with my current position but would like to keep my parents "fine".

Some more info on me:
I don't use facebook, I have a profile but it hasn't been used after the 1st month I've got it.
I have hobbies which are suited for one person, making music, drawing, playing video games usually's mmo but generally by myself.
My lack of interest in talking/socialising with others is generally because I don't see any gain in it. Why talk when I don't "get anything out of it". E.g. talking with a friend in a starbucks cafe about random **** is incredibly boring for me.


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Ask Vayne

Senior Member

06-09-2012

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoi...ality_disorder (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorder)

Not really much you can do. Sometimes psychotherapy in a 1 on 1 interaction with psychiatrist/psychologists may help with encouraging more social like behavior, but generally these things are ingrained into your personality. Most people with this particular type generally can get through life fine, and many of them tend to even do well financially, as they are usually intelligent people.


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Coffee Cakez

Junior Member

06-09-2012

Im a social person, i go out to parties and im in a sorority(im a female, yes). Honestly whatever makes you happy is all that matters. I tend to dislike a lot of people as well, i do however have a few close friends that i share common intrest in. Just tell your parents that your'e content and happy. Its your life, if going out isn't your thing thats fine. If you really care what your parents are saying though I would suggest finding other people who will come over on the weekends and have a LAN party. You're socializing and still playing your games


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My Face Is OP

Member

06-09-2012

Your hobbies are drawing, making music, and video games.

Your parents probably just wish you were a normal kid.


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Yummy Blueberry

Senior Member

06-09-2012

that's nothing tbh. I was going to regale you with a story of my childhood, but TLDR version, you need people that you can trust that's the important thing. If you can trust your parents that's good. If you feel lonely, try to make friends. But don't ever be in a situation where you cant be open with people.


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My Face Is OP

Member

06-09-2012

About 5 years ago I was a ballerina ball coach for middle school aged kids. All but maybe two of those kids wanted to be there. The rest were signed up by their parents. A couple practiced hard and the rest ran around playing Lord Of The Rings (really happened). Kids are different now days and parents don't understand that. Just do some normal things once in awhile and they'll cut you a little bit of slack. Parents just want their kids to be normal.


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Yummy Blueberry

Senior Member

06-09-2012

Quote:
My Face Is OP:
About 5 years ago I was a ballerina ball coach for middle school aged kids. All but maybe two of those kids wanted to be there. The rest were signed up by their parents. A couple practiced hard and the rest ran around playing Lord Of The Rings (really happened). Kids are different now days and parents don't understand that. Just do some normal things once in awhile and they'll cut you a little bit of slack. Parents just want their kids to be normal.


lolol normal is weed dawg.


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UrsaMinor

Senior Member

06-09-2012

If it's really a big problem for your parents, just lie to them (bad advice I know, but it's easy) and say you've done all this normal stuff when you go out.

I wouldn't do that myself because I'm an honest person. It's very hard for me to lie unless I need to keep a secret.


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Flodoard

Senior Member

06-09-2012

Well if you're happy with that then I guess overall you're ok
but I can't see how you aren't lonely or won't be lonely later on in life.

I say you should spend some time socializing
Everyone whom I have met that said "they don't like socializing" and that they "find no purpose in it" always struck me as very strange and in serious need of purpose.
Who could wake up and do their chores and their lofty hobbies that lead to nowhere everyday?


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Light LaserTower

Senior Member

06-09-2012

Having close real IRL friends can be very helpful during certain times. Don't late gaming take up all of your time!


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