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So according to my female friend, I can touch her boobs because I'm gay

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Sokadikos

Senior Member

01-27-2013

I find it very disrespectful for her boyfriend, I mean seriously, I don't think just because a guy is gay, a straight guy would be less annoyed by allowing another guy to touch her boobs, how do you guys feel about it?


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Umbasa

Senior Member

01-27-2013

where do i apply for a sexual orientation change?


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Jesus the Friend

Member

01-27-2013

I'm not sure what you're complaining about...?

You get to touch breasts for free. GG.


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Mighty Nooblord

Member

01-27-2013

Tell her to please stop being sexually libertine.


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Sokadikos

Senior Member

01-27-2013

Quote:
Jesus the Friend:
I'm not sure what you're complaining about...?

You get to touch breasts for free. GG.


If she was single I would not mine, but she does that in front of her boyfriend....


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Dobagoh

Member

01-27-2013

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Mighty Nooblord:
Tell her to please stop being sexually libertine.

Ja, lest she turn into used underwear!


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Fujiou

Member

01-27-2013

In front of her boyfriend is kind of bad, just because as him I wouldn't want to see that.

But I fail to see how it's harmful if you're actually gay.


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Mighty Nooblord

Member

01-27-2013

Quote:
Dobagoh:
Ja, lest she turn into used underwear!


That was like a lot of time ago; please stop.


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Dobagoh

Member

01-27-2013

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Mighty Nooblord:
That was like a lot of time ago; please stop.

Ok fine. But what do I get in return for stopping?


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IS1281a2aa64f651d96c2ca

Senior Member

01-27-2013

You identify as "gay" and the notion of a guy touching a girls' boobs conflicts with your idea of gayness and hence threatens an aspect of your identity. If you indeed touched her boobs, you would have to explain to yourself "why" you did it. Underlying this is your fear that you might not be 100% gay as you think.

Your female friend trusted you fully when you said that you are gay. Her boyfriend might not trust that you are gay and feel disrespected. Now if you were truly gay and you knew it, that would mean that your female friend was making an informed judgment while her boyfriend would have made an uninformed judgment. Normally, we approve of informed judgment and disapprove of uninformed judgment. So you should be happy with how much your female friend trusts you and unhappy with how suspicious many guys can be. Instead, you reverse it all and sanctify her boyfriend's judgment while questioning the appropriateness of her actions.

But that strange reversal, of course, is unsurprising because you are externalizing the causes of an internal conflict. Her boyfriend is not the one brought out your doubts about your identity hence you have no reason to lash out at him. In fact, he wasn't even there. You just could not reconcile your gay self-identification with engaging in an ostensibly heterosexual act. This uncertainty made you feel uncomfortable and you elected to blame your female friend for your inability to integrate yourself.


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