NOTE 1: I don't have ELO to back me up. My rank sucks, but I still have wisdom to share, and I do play with many high-ELO friends. I've written a book about League, and I run my own business as a life-coach.
I share what I've learned here aimed to help others. I offer people Fresh, Creative Ideas they may not have heard. I offer a chance to EXPERIMENT and potentially IMPROVE your game EXPERIENCE.
I know you can appreciate the time it took to write, and I trust you'll be gentle and kind.
But, hey... if you gotta hate, or take sides, or pick fights -- best of luck to ya, I'm sure it'll
take you far in life
NOTE 2: Like my other Solo Q “Secrets”, these are just my own experiences, and conclusions I’ve discovered. I’m a human being, I’m sharing things I feel will help others. They are SUGGESTED EXPERIMENTS.
[Solo Q Secrets #006] Breathe In (The Soul-Crushing Defeat)
I’m gonna let you in on a little something.
League Of Legends breaks my heart.
Actually, from time to time, league absolutely crushes my soul.
…I wake each day, hoping to god to play with other human beings who co-operate, uplift each other, and work as a team aimed at victory and fun.
(I know, right? lol.)
And you know -- I feel pretty blessed, ‘cause a lot of the time I do get something like that, my friends list is filled with pretty cool people, and it’s a big part of why I keep playing.
…lots of times, for me and for others, we end up ‘trapped’ in a game with 4 other people who rage, blame, judge, hate, label, demand, and bully the rest of their team with insults and snap remarks.
The emotional environment & attitude in this ‘eSport’ is generally hostile and unpleasant. (Yes, League Of Legends has grown from video-game, into eSport)
(awesome gaming comic Penny Arcade seems to agree about playing solo q: http://penny-arcade.com/comic/2011/06/29)
But there’s something very important to know.
In LoL, you’re not really setup to find good teammates.
In school, if you were to play a ‘normal sport’, like soccer, hockey, or football… you wouldn’t go find all the bullies in your class and play with them.
You’d get your own friends, that suit you, and play with them.
You’re definitely not trapped for 30-60minutes with a bunch of people you don’t along with, and who venomously blame you for anything they feel is not going their way.
But that’s exactly what happens in LoL, and Riot’s 20min surrender & penalties for DCing make it worse.
There’s a reason for this though, and it mainly has to do with their best efforts to offer free, instant gaming with 9 other people.
In any other sport, you hook up with groups, friends, (and leagues) who ‘get you’ and are fun to play with, and you work around their schedules.
In LOL, ‘setting up a clan’, and ‘making friends’ feels like too much hassle, people just wanna click a button and get playin’.
IRL you can’t just instantly play soccer - it takes more effort than that.
But in LoL people want instant gratification.
And Riot has provided it - but right now, you’re kinda at the mercy of their woefully under-powered match-making system (and it’s still one of the best in the industry!)
And so… if you want instant gaming with a bunch of strangers, with minimal effort on your part…
… you’ll end up with a pretty sh***y game-experience.
You’ll be playing with people who are basically at their core… inconsiderate emotionally, mentally, and often physically.
And video games are still a ‘young-persons’ past time (though that’s changing), and so be prepared to play with immature teenagers filled with angst, unsure of their purpose in life, and raging with hormones.
This isn’t blame; I’m not hating.
I’m trying to get clear on the environment you dive into every time you click “Match Me With Teammates”
It’s just how it is.
It's kind of like if you went to India, you’d see more Indian people; if you play a video game, you meet a lot more kids who throw tantrums and don’t know how to handle their feelings.
Are you following? Are you getting this?
Because for me… this kinda breaks my heart.
'Cause I see the potential of League Of Legends.
I see the potential for it to be a truly uplifting game and community, recognized by many as a “great place to be”.
League's already fun, for sure…
…and it could be an amazing way to unwind.
We'd co-operate and synergize with my team, rallying each other to victory, making amazing plays, and developing fantastic game-sense together.
It could be a way to measure my own success and progress and improvement as I see my own skill and situations improve.
It could be a way to connect with a fun, thriving community.
All this is so possible.
Many times I get the exact opposite.
We lose hard, and as we lose, the chat log is filled with hate.
My own tips: yes, have fun even when you lose. But also take note of the other players who do the same and try to friend them. Even in some crushing defeats, I've made new friends who were positive teammates. We got totally destroyed one game, but the whole team was supportive and I made new friends who I play a lot with to this day.
Then I started soloing a lot less and playing more with my new friends. At any given time, I may have a couple dozen friends or more to play or lane with and I get invites all the time because people know that we're going to have _fun_ when we play together... even if we lose.
Also, instead of being all @#$#@$@#ing BS when someone manages a beautiful combo/skillshot/whatever, give the opponent some credit for skill. I've friended more than a few devastating opponents. And the next game, they were premades on my team This is especially nice for a support like me who wants nothing better than to have a skilled ADC to lane with.
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