||12-25-2012 09:35 AM
Originally Posted by Sokadikos
I'm curious, how do you guys imagine a gay guy? Because everytime I tell people I am gay, they say they are surprised because I have a deep voice and don't "act" gay... it's kind of annoying because I don't think sexuality defines one's personality.
Sadly since so many gay men play up the stereotype, it's what most people recognise as "gay". I live in Seattle, and maybe 20% of my male friends are gay. When it's me & one of my gay friends hanging out at each others house, or a group of straight guys and 1 gay guy all hanging out, my gay friends don't act the stereotype. If they're not around other gays or people they don't know, they're just a lazy slob who like to smoke pot and play video games like the rest of us. But when we go out to gay clubs, or hang out with large groups of people they don't know, or when around other gay guys, the stereotype comes out.
The flittery hand gestures come out, the voice changes, and they all of a sudden care about their appearance. I just smile as they put on a show for others. I love my gay friends like any other, but they bring on the stereotype themselves. It's the same deal when I hang out with my black brother in law or other black friends. Normal video game playing, lazy pot smoker guy in private when not around other black guys, but full on "gangsta" comes out when around his "brothas".
It's hard for to feel sorry for people who get stereotyped when the majority do it to themselves.